40 and beautiful!!

40 is often referred to as the beginning of the end or going down the hill. Really now!! Personally, Life couldn’t have been more on top of the hill, for me. I feel more secure ,more confident ,more happier, more sexier, more everything. The brats have grown up, curbing down the crazy mayhem that involves raising 2 kids ( and god help you if both are boys). The relationship has grown up, has matured…Ripened is the word I would coin for it. The ups and downs are more familiar and feel less alien. C’mon!!, now is the time to sit back and enjoy the journey…:)

Actress-Director Suhasini Maniratnam once famously said “ Life for an Indian woman begins at 40”. Totally with her on this. At 40 Life for me is all about ‘ moi’. Earlier hubby, kids, family ,home hogged a major share of my life’s pie-chart. There was hardly any left for me. Now it’s just me, me and me. Selfish??...mebbe!!..Being a woman, and a Indian woman at that, i will never cease to be a daughter, wife, mother n a sister (don’t want to either). I just don’t want to be defined only by a relationship anymore. There is so much more to me than what can be defined by a relationship. There is so much about me that I , myself have to discover yet, that sometimes I feel one lifetime isn’t enough. So what, if I don’t have a career and don’t earn my own money. Don’t i deserve my own identity??. Is it taboo for me to even want to establish my own identity??...I don’t think so.

I had stopped noticing a lot of things about myself because of the constant changes that seemed to engulf my existence . My different roleplays left me emotionally drained-out. So i find it really weird at times that I have actually managed to discover my ability to look beyond the mundane in my life. To reach out , seek and find happiness within me.

Nowadays you get to hear a lot of ’40 is the new 30’ or ’40 is the new 20’ . what the heck!!!. Why does 40 have to be anything other than 40?? I don’t want to be the new 20 or the new 30. I am 41..PERIOD!! How insecure one ought to be to hide behind the new-20 n new-30 label. It’s a crime to even compare 40 to a 30 or a disastrous-20. Unlike the 20’s I feel so much at home in my own skin. I have learnt to respect my body, have become more aware of its needs and less conscious of what the world and its cousins think of it. The result: a more confident and a stronger me!!. Unlike the 30’s, I have learnt not to give up easily and to fight people, things and situations that threaten to bring me down. Where would we be if we gave up easily!!

I most certainly would love to have a tete-a-tete with the clueless-halfwit who said woman of 40 are dried-up and drifting. I definitely am not dried-up and wont be drifting anywhere soon, rest assured. My hormones maybe going bonkers at 40, but I’ve never had it betta than this!!.

Believe you me , there is nothing more beautiful in this world than a woman who knows where she is going. Ladies and gentleman, sit up and take notice…The woman of 40 have arrived!!!

P.S...thts me up there on the day i turned sweet 40...:))